“It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.” ~Joyce Maynard
Being a first time parent comes with many surprises. I have been a stay-at-home mother for the past three years. Now that my “baby” is no longer a baby and is going to leave me for the first time to start preschool is a bit overwhelming for me. However, there are many strategies to use to get by the stress that comes along with parenting and the transitions and preparing for what’s best for your child because that is, of course, the main focus. My three-year-youngin’ starts preschool in two days and I know I have to remain strong. I am very proud of my boy and the young little man he is growing into and I also think how proud of myself I am for taking such wonderful care of him. When I look back, we did a lot of playing trains, blocks, story time, flashcards, cars, cranes and trucks, board games such as candy land and scramble, hanging out, took many walks, dancing, and of course the discipline that goes along with young children and so fourth… I taught him a lot and now it is time for him to learn from others. It’s hard and I know I will pull through. There is no parenting book or guide to warn parents that it is a challenge when transitions happen. …And sending my boy to school for the first time sure is a challenge in itself for me. I just wonder how I will be when he has to leave for college or moves out of the house for the first time; well, I will wait (very) patiently and enjoy every second that I do have with him until that day comes. Right now, my focus is preschool. ((Smiles)). As a parent, I believe we have special key roles to play in a child’s life. For one, I know I have taught my son love from day one. Love is very important and to me love is being there, caring, helping in time of need, playing, laughter and having fun together… love to me is also teaching children to have decent morals, values and integrity. It is never too late to teach love, give love and receive love. For my son has taught me the true meaning of love. I am ready to watch my boy grow and develop; to watch him transition into the man he becomes. …And I will walk along side him every step of the way; for I am his mother. But in order to take these steps with him, I have to be fully prepared. So below I have listed some strategies to help parents cope with their children growing, changing, and developing into their own person when knowing that your child will enter the world on his own for the first time.
Techniques on how to help Parents Cope with Transitions with their Young Children:
- Always have a positive mind-set. Hence, always know that everything will be alright.
- If your in need of crying, let it all out. A good cry can be healthy for you. However, try not to cry in front of the child, you do not want to make the child feel bad, you want them to know it is ok for them to leave and do what they have to so they can experience life.
- Reach out to other parents who are in the same boat as you such as friends, other parents in your child’s school, online, and so on…
- Keep yourself busy. Find a favorite hobby such as exercise, volunteer, read, paint, knit, take a walk, meditate, creative projects or do whatever it is that you enjoy doing. Any free time you have, try and make it self-fulfilling, we all deserve it!
- Be strong! Keep in mind that the more obstacles you overcome and pull through, the stronger of a person you will be!
“You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.” ~William D. Tammeus
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