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The past teaches us who we do and do not want to be–it is not who we are today unless we choose it to be. You are not what you have been through; unless you choose to be it. All … Continue reading
“Give and Take…
For to the bee a flower is a fountain of life,
And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love,
And to both, bee and flower, the giving and the receiving is a need and an ecstasy.” -Khalil Gibran
Photography by Dianne Furphy, August 2012, Fort Washington State Park, PA.
“It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.” ~Joyce Maynard
Being a first time parent comes with many surprises. I have been a stay-at-home mother for the past three years. Now that my “baby” is no longer a baby and is going to leave me for the first time to start preschool is a bit overwhelming for me. However, there are many strategies to use to get by the stress that comes along with parenting and the transitions and preparing for what’s best for your child because that is, of course, the main focus. My three-year-youngin’ starts preschool in two days and I know I have to remain strong. I am very proud of my boy and the young little man he is growing into and I also think how proud of myself I am for taking such wonderful care of him. When I look back, we did a lot of playing trains, blocks, story time, flashcards, cars, cranes and trucks, board games such as candy land and scramble, hanging out, took many walks, dancing, and of course the discipline that goes along with young children and so fourth… I taught him a lot and now it is time for him to learn from others. It’s hard and I know I will pull through. There is no parenting book or guide to warn parents that it is a challenge when transitions happen. …And sending my boy to school for the first time sure is a challenge in itself for me. I just wonder how I will be when he has to leave for college or moves out of the house for the first time; well, I will wait (very) patiently and enjoy every second that I do have with him until that day comes. Right now, my focus is preschool. ((Smiles)). As a parent, I believe we have special key roles to play in a child’s life. For one, I know I have taught my son love from day one. Love is very important and to me love is being there, caring, helping in time of need, playing, laughter and having fun together… love to me is also teaching children to have decent morals, values and integrity. It is never too late to teach love, give love and receive love. For my son has taught me the true meaning of love. I am ready to watch my boy grow and develop; to watch him transition into the man he becomes. …And I will walk along side him every step of the way; for I am his mother. But in order to take these steps with him, I have to be fully prepared. So below I have listed some strategies to help parents cope with their children growing, changing, and developing into their own person when knowing that your child will enter the world on his own for the first time.
Techniques on how to help Parents Cope with Transitions with their Young Children:
“You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.” ~William D. Tammeus
Furthermore, this link also correlates to my Guided Tips section:
Being a parent to a toddler can sometimes be very overwhelming especially during one of their temper tantrums. I have provided several personal approaches to go about dealing with a toddler when they are in the middle of a temper tantrum. Since every child is different, their reaction will be different… Take for instance my toddler, he is currently in the stage where he kicks, screams, tells me no and runs away and even hits himself. My hubby and I were torn on how to go about this situation being that we are new to this (we are first time parents) but what we found that benefits the situation are a couple of techniques listed below. Now keep in mind, these techniques will not all the time work; it all depends on the child which will at times take awhile to get calmed down so be patient. Like I said, every child is different and will act differently during their tantrums. My toddler basically throws his tantrums when he does not get what he wants but again, every child is different. Also keep in mind that if the child is in harm of himself or others during the tantrums do your best to keep the toddler in a safe environment until they are calmed down. If it is to the point where you are concerned about the tantrum and the toddler being in danger, contact your doctor right away. Furthermore, do not feel embarrassed if you are in public, it happens to almost every toddler, I am sure most parents who witness the tantrum has dealt with it sometime too and can relate.
After a tantrum, no matter what, always explain to the toddler in a calm, loving voice that the behavior was not necessary and was not good behavior. Reassure your toddler that you still love them and give some loving by hugs and kisses.
Like I stated above, every child is different so not all of these techniques will work. However, you being the parent, you determine what is best for your child in any given situation. These techniques I listed are ones I used on my toddler that worked out through different stages of his toddler tantrum years. Some work at times and other times they do not. Best of luck with parenting during tantrums!
~Believe in yourself and you can create what you want.