Forgive But Do Not Forget–Resolve Your Inner Conflict

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Forgive. Photography by Dianne Furphy.

All of our life experiences make us who we are today. We store a lot of those feelings and emotions inside of us from previous experiences if we do not cope effectively. And by not letting go, we tend to build and store a lot of negative energy within our bodies. There are many techniques to learn to release inner conflict. One can be breathing exercises; another is coming to terms with how you feel in each situation that arises. It is all about accepting and letting go so you can move forward with your life. If you do not accept your life experiences, then you are standing still and creating more of those life experiences for yourself. Cry when needed, talk out your feelings and emotions, you can even write down your thoughts in a journal. Listen to your heart. Your heart will reveal to you what you already know. Sometimes we get so caught up in our every day lives that we forget to focus on our inner selves.

“This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, ‘aw shit, he’s up!” -Steve Maraboli

Pray for yourself; for patience, kindness, love, forgiveness, acceptance, and calmness. You too deserve all the love and belief in yourself. Because when you love yourself, it makes it easier to love others–and to love life. When you pray for patience, forgiveness, or whatever it may be–know you are put into a situation where you have to practice your patience and build it over time. You cannot expect to pray for patience and immediately receive it and not put any work and effort into being patient if you do not practice it.

“I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.” -Henry Ward Beecher

Life can be overwhelming at times but know you are capable of overcoming any struggles and challenges that are put in your path–instead see those obstacles and challenges as learning opportunities. You have choices every single day and with them choices you make, it is you who is creating the life and reality you are living. You have the choice right now to say goodbye to anger, hatred, and any other fear based way of living. Enlighten yourself with the knowledge and wisdom that is put in each and every experience in your life.

Know you are not alone when obstacles arise because we all face them in our lives. That is what is so beautiful about the human race, we can go to one another to lean on, listen to, talk to, learn from, express ourselves to- because we can relate to one another in life experiences being that everything is connected someway or another. Be open to receive what is coming your way because it is there for a very special purpose and reason.

“Learning to let things go and forgive isn’t always easy, but when we truly forgive, it helps foster better health, better relationships, a deeper sense of purpose and self worth and a feeling of connection to others.” -Robert Alan Silverstein

Another main key in life is to forgive. When you forgive fully; you let go and move on and not look back. There is no more pain and no more excessive baggage you are carrying around with you. Furthermore, in my experiences, if I am still thinking about the hurtful incident of what took place, I believe I have yet to fully forgive what took place which means it is something I need to work on within myself. When someone does something hurtful to another, it does not necessarily mean they do it directly to hurt you (you are the only one who allows yourself to be hurt), and they do it for their very own life experiences to grow and learn from. Some people take a lot longer than others to learn and that is OK because we are all on our very own journey’s. By not forgiving, we are storing that resentment in ourselves and holding on to that anger. We cannot let what others do effect us personally because we do have the control and power over how we feel within. I am sure we all heard the saying, “Forgive but do not forget.” But how are we to forgive if we still keep it with us? I believe forgiving is forgetting and putting it in the past and behind us, especially if we only bring forward the lessons we have learned in that particular hurtful situation. To me, this is what “Forgive but do not forget” means; to bring forward the benefits of what I learned and leave behind the anger and resentment. Forgive and be free!

“Forgiving is one of the most difficult things for a human being to do, but I think it means looking at some slight you feel, putting yourself in the position of the other person, and wiping away any sort of resentment and antagonism you feel toward them. Then let that other person know that everything is perfectly friendly and normal between you.” -Jimmy Carter

You have the choice right now to decide what you want to do in each life experience. I pray for all of us to choose the choices based on love.

Live, Learn and Explore Life because life is all a learning experience. Life Is What YOU Make It. 


“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.” -Cherie Carter-Scott

With Love & Deep Gratitude,

Dianne Furphy



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  5. Beautiful page, I need to keep this open to keep reading and re reading this, so many different messages in it.. all so true and wonderful. thank you for sharing…

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