Are you upset with someone due to something they did or said to you? Do you feel angry towards that person? Or do you feel angry with yourself due to something you feel you did wrong? It is completely OK to feel such feelings of pain due to being hurt but it is not OK to keep them feelings with you all the time, especially if years have passed by. Once the incident occurs, address how you feel right then and there and tune in and feel the feelings you are experiencing so you can let go of any resentment after you have calmed down from the situation. It is all about forgiving and letting go. By you forgiving, you are opening up your heart and mind and freeing yourself from carrying around all of that excess baggage that is really unnecessary especially for your health. By holding on to anything “bad,” it will cause more madness, chaos and drama in your life. By having this rage inside of you, you are not leaving space inside you or your life for all the good and love you do deserve. Forgive that person for whatever it is so you can be free and live a healthy life and release the stress, the illness and the hurt you are causing yourself. By not forgiving, you are only doing damage to yourself, not that person. It is known that everything and everyone is a self-reflection of yourself, all is put in your life for you to learn what you have to overcome. Maybe that person hurt you because you needed it to feel that pain and sadness to know that is something you do not want to be like. Or maybe the experience was put in your path to learn a lesson in some way or another. No matter what the pain and hurt was in your life, it was to be experienced for a certain reason …look to see what the purpose of it may be and grow and develop from it. Forgiving improves health and happiness and there are many other wonderful positive outcomes to forgiving. Forgive yourself and others so you can live the life you really want. Do not let not forgiving take you away from a life that is very much so well deserved to live out fully. Forgiving also plays a huge role mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Let go of the suffering you are causing yourself and forgive wholeheartedly so you can move on with your life and experience the goodness and joy that life has to offer.
Keep in mind that forgiveness is a very special gift that you give to yourself.
With Deep Gratitude,
“Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively.” -David McArthur & Bruce McArthur
“Those who forgive are …releasing themselves from illusions, while those who withhold forgiveness are binding themselves to them. As you condemn only yourself, so do you forgive only yourself.” -W-41.1, A Course In Miracles quote
“I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note–torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.” -Henry Ward Beecher
“Forgiveness is choosing to love. It is the first skill of self-giving love.” -Mahatma Gandhi
“Not to forgive is to be imprisoned by the past, by old grievances that do not permit life to proceed with new business. Not to forgive is to yield oneself to another’s control… to be locked into a sequence of act and response, of outrage and revenge, tit for tat, escalating always. The present is endlessly overwhelmed and devoured by the past. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. It extracts the forgiver from someone else’s nightmare.” -Lance Morrow
“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.” –Joan Lunden
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” –Catherine Ponder
Photography by Dianne Furphy, 2011, Mexico.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOU CAN CREATE WHAT YOU WANT.